Sit Your Ass Down and Rest!
Rest Is NOT A Dirty Word.
HONOR YOUR ENERGY
I'm learning that in honoring my energy, it provides me with sustainability. When I take time to listen to my body, to take stock in my energy level and how much I'm outputting vs. how much I'm replenishing, it offers deeper connection with myself. I'm learning that in an attention-economy, running on “grind culture”, my personal stamina cannot keep up — trust me, I’ve tried. It has led me to deep burn out, weight gain, mental fog, emotional instability and a huge lack in creative energy and sexual desire.
What I have learned time and time again is that in order for me to show up at my fullest, happiest, most vibrant, regulated, creative, authentic and most sexually thriving self, I have to honor my process and my energy. I can not operate according to the standards of others. I must tune into my own rhythm and listen to it.
How often do you push when you want to rest? How often do you perform when you want to rest? How often do you cling to productivity, when you want to rest? Why don't you let yourself rest?
WHY YOU DON’T REST — I BET I CAN RELATE
You don't rest because it doesn't feel like you've earned it yet. You don't rest because there are so many things that need to get done and if you just keep going, you'll eventually get to take that time. You don't rest because there is someone out there working harder, longer, more than you. You don't rest because rest doesn't get shit done. You don't rest because people will think you're lazy — and you're literally the furthest thing from that. You don't rest because you might miss out on opportunities. You don't rest because you can just sleep at night and that'll be good enough. You don't rest because you should be getting some time off soon and you'll do it then. You don't rest because you don't want to get stuck in resting and then not have the energy to get going again. You don't rest because rest doesn't clean the house, or feed the kids, or mow the lawn, or fix the thing, or plan the week, or fuck your partner. You don't rest because something or someone told you that rest is not the answer. What a crock of shit!
DID YOU KNOW?
Adequate rest helps boost your libido! Sleep deprivation can decrease your body’s production of sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen, which are crucial for sexual desire and arousal.
Rest can improve relationship quality. Being well-rested leads to better mood regulation, improving communication and emotional intimacy with your partner, family, friends etc.
Rest is essential for brain health. Sleep, specifically, allows your brain to process emotions and memories, reducing stress and anxiety, which can help you approach relationships with more clarity and emotional openness.
Chronic restlessness can hinder sexual performance. Lack of true rest or sleep affects cognitive function, which leads to difficulty focusing and being present throughout your day.
Rest reduces cortisol levels, the stress hormone, which in turn can enhance sexual function and pleasure. Lower cortisol means you're more likely to feel relaxed and connected to yourself and with your partner or lover(s).
Rest is key to emotional intelligence. When you’re well-rested, your brain is better able to process emotions, making you more empathetic and attuned to your needs and the needs of those around you.
Restorative rest can help prevent burnout in life, work and relationships. Taking time to recharge, makes connection sustainable, output more manageable, and life a whole lot more enjoyable!
REST & REPEAT
“It's ok to need time to replenish myself. I can't give, running on empty”
“My body does it’s best healing, while I’m resting”
“Rest is allowed to be enjoyable and aimless”
“I’m allowed to rest”
“Life-ing feels so much more doable when I give myself time to rest”
REST IS NECESSARY
Desiring rest is your body trying to tell you that you need a break before you break. Desiring rest is the indicator of your depletion. Rest is your body's break for maintenance. Even machines need breaks for maintenance and cars need breaks for gas — so why wouldn’t you? You are no good to anyone or anything by running yourself dry to maintain whatever standard someone else created. Rest is not a dirty word.
So sit your ass down, and rest! Make rest pleasureful. It doesn’t have to be actually sitting on your ass doing nothing — although, if that activates you into those “oh no” feelings, then maybe that is exactly the kind of rest you need. Rest can be anything that feels restful for YOU. Maybe you masturbate, maybe you take a nap, maybe you read a book, maybe you go meditate in the grass, maybe you take a trip to the beach, maybe you take a bath, maybe you binge a tv show, maybe you paint topless with some iced tea, maybe you play a word search, maybe you stare aimlessly at your ceiling. Honestly, whatever gives you time to replenish and feel restored, GO FOR IT!
Let this be your permission slip for rest. You deserve to give yourself time for restful things. My invitation to you is to become aware of the times where you feel you need to push, need to be productive, need to keep going, and instead give yourself the gift of rest. Take your break for maintenance. Replenish yourself so that you can actually have the energy to pour into all the things in your life.
<3 with love, Bri
I'm Brianna Endrina, mentor for women and lovers in coupledom. A sort of mating n' relating connoisseur, if you will. I'm here to guide you — and your boo, towards confident eroticism & nourishing partnership!
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Yes! Rest is so important. Our bodies work at a different speed to our minds and we need to give them space and time to recalibrate, heal, digest and nourish in their parasympathetic state. In a world so driven by the "go go go" energy, it can feel like a delicious act of rebellion to say "No, this is what my body, my health and my vitality needs". Thank you for the invitation!