The Good Kind of MindF*ck!
Seduce Her Brain and Watch Her Body Submit
There’s an appeal to losing all control when you’re consumed in pleasure — at least for me. It’s a completion of it’s own kind to be talked through a craving. When the aching for ecstasy is taken care of with a command or a verbal desire. A spoken permission slip to release so completely into the idea of what’s to come. It’s a welcomed foreshadowing. An interlacing of mouths and minds, scratching every carnal itch through the slow burn of mental stimulation before eagerly submitting into a full delicious fucking.
The brain is a well-lubed orifice, ready and eager to take all of your throbbing fantasies, desires, ideas, physical invitations, verbal commands and cues.
Foreplay For My Sapiosexuals!
Fun Fact! The brain is your biggest erogenous zone. — but what does that mean? It means that your brain literally lights up when you're turned on! Studies show that when you see, hear, or think about something erotic, a special part of your brain (the Anterior Cingulate Cortex — or ACC) kicks into gear. Simply put, this makes you feel desire and also helps your body react—like deciding to inch closer to someone you're attracted to or leap across the car and straddle them for a kiss. It’s basically your brain saying, “I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it” — Ariana what are you doing here!?
If that did a little something for ya — well buckle up butter cup! — because we also have a region in our beautiful brains called the genital sensory cortex. This area, located within the somatosensory cortex, was pinpointed and coined the “brain crotch” by Cognitive Neuroscientist, Psychotherapist and Certified Sex Therapist Nan Wise, PhD, during a 2011 study where fMRI scans showed activation in this region during stimulation of the clitoris, vagina, cervix, or nipples.
But wait, here’s the best part! In a follow up study in 2016 Dr. Wise and a small group of participants explored if activation of the “brain crotch” would appear with imaginary erotic stimuli to these areas of the body, and yes, the fMRI scans revealed this to be true! The scans also lit up other areas, including several parts of the brain’s reward circuit — don’t worry, I’ll add all the things to the index at the bottom of this article.
Seeing as there are not enough hours in the day to drag out this kind of foreplay. I’ll sum it up all up for you — the brain is a well-lubed orifice, ready and eager to take all of your throbbing fantasies, desires, ideas, physical invitations, verbal commands and cues…deeply, hardly, and intentionally.
Her Body Will Remember The Way You Seduced Her Mind
Although the brain is your biggest erogenous zone, it’s all interconnected. When it comes to pleasure, reward and emotions it’s an intricate fusing of stimulating those regions, inside and outside of us, that reinforces a positive, desired response. In her book, Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, shares about the science of desire and how the brain has a pair of mechanisms called the Sexual Excitation System (SES) and the Sexual Inhibition System (SIS) of which she calls our sexual accelerators and brakes. Simply put, there are things we experience that either turn us on or turn us off, that get us revved up or slow us down. In order for us to feel motivated to pursue sexual stimulation we gotta learn to keep our foot on the accelerator and use the brakes mindfully.
This understanding of how desire works offers a practical lens for introducing stimuli that will reinforce a positive desired response — you want her to get all sorts of dripping with desire for you, appeal to the biggest part of her.
F*ck Her “Brain Crotch”
This is all about teasing her mind. So, here are a few ideas to erotically stimulate the brain and make desire boil over before you even put a finger in her — yes you read that correctly.
The Power of Anticipation: The Slow Burn is the Hottest
Make her wet by making her wait. Desire thrives on tension—hint at what’s coming but don’t give it all away.
Build-up is everything—maybe you dress a certain way, where a specific scent, give insinuating glances, steal touches on her body that feel more intimate but not sexual, and supply innuendos that are suggestive and flirty, etc.
The Art of Suggestion: Say More by Saying Less
Instead of being blunt, be suggestive. Let her imagination fill in the blanks.
The mind loves mystery—a little ambiguity will make her lean in.
Maybe she looked really good today and it made you really horny, so you share that by saying “You look so good. Ooof, the things I want to do to you *insert fitting emoji*”
Dirty Talk Done Right: Words = Foreplay
Talk about what you want, what you’re thinking, or even better—describe in great detail what you’re going to do.
Play with contrast: commanding vs. vulnerable, teasing vs. praising, soft whispers vs. raw desire.
Example: “If we weren’t in public right now, I’d have you pressed against the wall, tasting every inch of you.”
Sensory Deprivation: The Brain Fills the Gaps
Blindfolds, whispers in the dark, soft restraints—when one sense is taken away, the brain heightens everything else.
Make her feel your words without seeing you—“Close your eyes. I want you to listen to how badly I want you.”
Erotic Intelligence: How Sapiosexual of You
Challenge her. Make her think, make her work for it.
Lean into deep conversation, debates, playful arguments—intellectual stimulation creates sexual tension.
Try this: “I love how your mind works. It’s one of the sexiest things about you.” Instant heat.
Fantasy Play: Invite Her Inside Your Imagination
Fantasies don’t have to stay in your head—share them, play with them, and explore them together.
Offer: “I have a fantasy about you and I. Want to hear it?” Then whisper it in her ear or if you two aren’t together, send her a text or a voice note of the fantasy — in great length.
Forbidden & Taboo: The Thrill Factor
The brain craves what it “shouldn’t” have. Play with the idea of the forbidden—public teasing, secret touches, the idea of “we shouldn’t… but we will.”
For anyone with an exhibitionism and/or voyeurism kink the ideas of being caught or watched are heavy hitters.
Please be advised the material in this article is to be consumed as entertainment, inspiration and education by consenting people. Consent is an agreement between willing participants to engage in any physical or non-physical activity. Consent should be clearly and freely communicated. This information may not pertain to every relationship dynamic. Discretion is advised.
Final Thought: Mind First, Body Second
The biggest bypassing of pleasure people make? Going straight for the body. Instead, seduce the mind first—words, imagination, tension, anticipation. When the brain is turned on, the body can’t help but follow.
The brain is the biggest erogenous zone and we can seduce the “brain crotch” into desire and pleasure.
Our accelerators and brakes play a major role in how we positively or negatively respond to sexual stimuli.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to give her “brain crotch” the best oral it’s ever gotten. — I’m talking sexy, sloppy and filthy.
Now tell me, which one of these mental stimulation techniques turns you on the most?
INDEX
Erogenous Zone - an area of the human body that has heightened sensitivity, which may generate a sexual response such as relaxation, sexual fantasies, sexual arousal, and orgasm.
Reward Circuit - interconnected networks of brain cells that motivate us to seek the rewards that are basic to our survival, such as sex, food, drink, and social interactions
Somatosensory Cortex - known for its central role in processing sensory information from various parts of the body
Anterior Cingulate Cortex - an integration center that interconnects neurons from the frontal cortex, the thalamus and the amygdala, processing cognitive, emotional and autonomic functions
SapioSexual - Sapiosexuality refers to those who are attracted to another person's intelligence and believe this to be their most attractive quality.
Exhibitionism - the sexual gratification and/or enjoyment of consensually showcasing one’s naked body or a sexual activity to other people and in public spaces.
Voyeurism - the sexual gratification and/or enjoyment of consensually watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people.
TL;DR
We have an area of our Somatosensory Cortex called our “Brain Crotch” that Dr. Nan Wise coined after a study done in 2011 around physical stimuli to the more common pleasure points of the female anatomy.
Dr. Emily Nagoski shares the science of desire by simplifying our brain’s SES and SIS mechanisms into our sexual accelerators and brakes. The things that turn us off and turn us on.
MindF*ck her in the good way using erotic stimulation techniques that focus on seducing the brain.
It’s all so good, so complex and so necessary…so just go read the article.
RESOURCES
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhD
Google…cause, yeah.
8 years of education…cause, yeah.
I'm Brianna Endrina, mentor for women and lovers in coupledom. A sort of mating n' relating connoisseur, if you will. I'm here to guide you — and your boo, towards confident eroticism & nourishing partnership!
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I feel deeply seen by this. Very hot! 🔥
Really good and useful.
Glad to say lots of this is how me and my partner already behave!