13 Quotes That Will Change The Way You Love
Yourself and Your Partner -- From Experience, They're True.
1. “The autonomy of a relationship is only as strong as the security of it.”
2. “Fall for the potential. Maybe the route to knowing if someone is for you, is through choosing to chase the idea of what it could be.”
3. “Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes partnership.”
I’ve been with the same man since I was twenty. We’ve had to learn to love more than a few versions of each other. When people say that relationships are “work” we tend to focus on the hard work. We tend to make it into this daunting journey of struggle, heartache and complacency with the twist of “worth it.” What we don’t talk about are the moments of utter bliss. We don’t emphasize that it’s not just the hard work or the heavy lifting that makes it, but the light work too! The moments when you’re in the trenches and you look over and laugh together at the mess you’re in. The moments when you’re in tears and devastatingly turned-on by the vulnerability. The times when your heart aches and you struggle to breathe from the sheer love you feel. Let’s talk about love in the way that humanizes rather than romanticizes it. It’s far more exciting that way! I promise!
4. “Couples who prioritize acceptance have far more stamina than those who prioritize compatibility.”
5. “At the root of your self-abandoning or self-loving behavior, you will find that worthiness is either it’s poison or it’s nourishment. Water your self worthy.”
6. “Relational security can feel unsafe when your relational baseline is chaos.”
I used to tell my partner that one day I was going to rent a place of my own and that we were going to be together but live separately. He didn’t particularly love the idea — but he remained curious. He asked me questions instead of shutting me down. He leaned into my “why” instead of leading with his ego. “What would be the benefit?” he asked. “So that we could date again, in a way that feels new and exciting! I want to feel what it’s like to be pursued by someone who’s in love with me...who has me, already.” It was one of the most vulnerable things I’d shared. He looked at me with a sort of interest I hadn’t seen in years. It hasn’t happened yet, but one day, I’m certain. Sometimes it just takes asking for what you want to bring you closer. We’re not mind readers, make it easier on each other to love each other.
7. “A powerful ally to your healing is learning to love the parts within you that don’t yet feel validated in their existence.”
8. “Being available to your desires starts with how honest you are about why you don’t yet feel deserving of them.”
9. “You don’t have to be healed before you enter relationship. We heal our relational wounds through the container of relationship and meet our relational trauma through the context of relating.”
There was a year in our relationship where we only saw each other on the weekends. Our work schedules kept us apart everyday but Saturday and part of Sunday. He was on mornings and I was on nights. We created rituals of connection; morning coffee notes, lunch box notes, sexy rendezvous and left us wanting more. It was honestly a pivotal moment for our marriage. It gave us the opportunity to learn to show up for one another in nourishing ways. It invited us to create the kind of intimacy that can become foreign in long-term partnership. The sweetness of being in desire for what you already have. To thrive in individuation and become a fiend for those petals of love.
10. “Lovership is about the daily acts of gratitude. It’s about showing each other the magnitude of little by little. How much love can you put into a cup of coffee? How much comfort can you put into a kiss goodnight? How much patience can you put into those moments of listening? How much can you play, dance. laugh, cry, solve, create and celebrate, together?”
11. “Intimacy that creates space for consistent consent, curiosity and evolution are paramount.”
12. “Relationships are human mirrors for our individual growth. We are at our best when we learn to create the type of self-awareness, accountability and love for ourselves that fosters our ability to show up in partnership with presence, compassion and care.”
13. “Life’s too precious not to make your cake and eat it off of your partner, too.”
I'm Brianna Endrina, mentor for women and lovers in coupledom. A sort of mating n' relating connoisseur, if you will. I'm here to guide you — and your boo, towards confident eroticism & nourishing partnership!
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